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What happens when you hold on to the traumas of your past? You start projecting them on the people around you. The things that happened to you that you have not fully accepted, whether good or bad, continue to stay with you until you accept them and let them be. No matter how painful it is to work through these things, until you do, you will see them in everything and everyone around you. Such is the lesson I learned from Debbie.
This was truly one of these most powerful books I have read in a long time. It opened my eyes to a lot of my own behaviors and feelings, which was not the intention when I picked it up.
Debbie had a really sad life growing up and was pretty much rejected by her parents the majority of her life and then her remaining sister after their sister committed suicide. Later she endured a series of failed relationships and ended up in an abusive marriage with a passive aggressive husband. For decades she projected the grief of losing her sister onto others. The rejection of her parents turned into angry outbursts and the abuse and mistreatment of her partners made her turn on herself, always wondering what was wrong with her.
In the end, she reached out for spiritual enlightenment that caused her to reach deep within herself. She was told by pundits that her marriage was her lesson to learn. And finally she underwent psilocybin treatment to finally find closure to her sister’s suicide decades before. What helped her wasn’t running from her feelings but turning toward them and diving in. She had to fully embrace all the emotions, go through the pain again, and come to an acceptance within herself.
Debbie shows us all how truly brave we can be and how powerful past experiences can still be decades later. She faced her past to come out strong enough to put her foot down in her present. She is a truly remarkable woman and I have a lot of respect for her. Her book has made me think a lot about myself and things I may need to face to have a fulfilling life.
5 stars – more if I could.
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